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Do Adult dating sites really work?

Adult Dating Sites are huge

But are they worth your time and money?


As a leading adult dating site, we often get asked the same question over and over again.   Do people really meet up from it?


The simple answer is yes and the demand is increasing all the time.


Of course, for every good site there are plenty of wannabe companies who claim to be bigger and better than anyone else.  You might sign up for one of these at the promise of easy conquests, only to be disappointed when you realise they are fake profiles.


A reputable site, such as constantly monitors members to make sure they are genuine and looking to meet up.


However, as with all dating sites, you can’t sit back and wait for things to happen automatically.  You need to make sure that you put the effort it and


1) Have a great photo.   This is absolutely vital, more so than a regular dating site.   Would you want to meet up with someone whose face you can’t see?   You might not want people to know you are on a sexual encounters website, but this is no excuse not to have a photo.  Our members are the only ones who can see it and you can set it to favourites only if with to stay anonymous.


2) Have realistic expectations.    Everyone has different tastes and some people will obviously have more success than others.  So keep that in mind and don’t be too judgemental.  Accept that not everyone will be interested in you and that we all come in different shapes and sizes.


3) Send out proper messages.  This is where you really need to put the effort in.  The hottest girls and guys are going to be getting more than interest than they can probably handle, so you need to get their attention.  If you write a friendly, polite and engaging email then they’ll be more likely to respond.


4) Build up trust.  Very few people will agree to meet up with you after just one short email.  It can take time to get to know each other and establish if there is any connection and reason to meet. They want to know your meeting will be safe, fun and discrete.  Never threaten or demand anything.  Let them do things in their own time.


5) Meet!  You’ve put in the hard work and found someone who wants to have sex with you.  So don’t chicken out or mess them around.  If you delay it too long or make excuses, you’ll start to worry and they’ll call it off.


Good luck,


James Preece – The Dating Guru